Today, we welcome Ai Sakura, who writes at Sakura Haruka, a Singapore Parenting & Lifestyle Blog. The blog features her musings on raising a cute toddler daughter, and her passions in food, fashion, travel and photography. She is also a social media enthusiast, so you can also catch her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest & her current addiction,Instagram!
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People often say that having a kid is a huge change in your lifestyle, and that it changes you. It is not to say that the moment you hold your little one in your arms at the hospital, you are a totally different person. No, the change takes time I think…
Time for you to realize that you are more patient than
before when your kid takes 15 minutes to put on a shoe. Time for you to realize
that you are more efficient than before when you can clean the house, get the
kid to school, cook, do laundry and wash the dishes all before lunchtime. Time
for you to realize that you are more understanding than before when you give
another tired mother a friendly smile when you see her slumped in a chair at
the café while her kids are running around screaming.
But also time for you to realize that now, your heart walks
outside your body. You are more vulnerable than before and you don’t live for
yourself anymore. You no longer have control over how you manage your time and
energy, and the world does seem to revolve around that little one. When she
toddles over to you with a book, no matter what you are doing, you jolly well
sit down and read it with her. When she hands you a phone, you just have to
pick it up and say “hello”.
Are the changes positive? I don’t know. But what I do know
is that I embrace these changes as I feel that my little girl has certainly
helped me to be a better person. Even though there is limited time and energy,
I prioritise so much better now and make an effort to live a hearty, happy and
fulfilling life. I want to show her that being a mother doesn’t mean giving up
on yourself as a person, it is about thinking creatively and getting the child
involved in your passions. For example, I like photography so I get my girl to
model for me or we go on little photography walks together.
I think that’s an important part when you experience changes
due to motherhood. Be flexible and learn to surrender. Kids are always going to
be unpredictable and spontaneous, so as much as you have plans on what kind of
mother you want to be, be open to adapt and change. If not, you may miss out on
the little lovely surprises the kids may throw at you!
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